2 士梅专栏 联欢会随想(doc)
2 Random Thoughts--Party Last night, pressured by well- intentioned friends, for the first time in months, I came out of writer’ s seclusion1 and attended a cocktail party which is another word for a social gathering. So there I was, trapped in a crowded room, people milling2 all around me, each with a drink in hand, chitchatting3 while the waiters skillfully negotiated4 their way through the bustle5 with trays of colorful beverages6 and fancy hors d’ oeuvres7.It was definitely party time! Yet, instead of losing myself to the convivial8 surroundings of food, drink and conversations, I found myself retreating back into my head all the way to China where the subject of American sociality is of great interest. 　　In China, many of my students are curious about how Americans party and have a good time. “ What do you do? Sing and dance? To what kind of music?” 　　“ What’ s American party talk?” “ How do you dress and act at a party?” “ How about food? What do you eat?” 　　Every year, without fail, students ask their foreign teachers to dedicate a full class to this fascinating topic. Of course, one would think that a subject as interesting and entertaining as such would make for an excellent lesson plan, a rich source of discussions. But to my surprise, many teachers run into roadblocks9 when generating 10 this particular lesson plan. 　　“ Michelle, Michelle! I have to teach a class on American parties. And I only have, hmm, five things to say about it. And that’ ll take about five minutes. What am I supposed to do after that?” They cry. 　　“ Well, tell me what those five things are,” I ask. 　　“ Arrive late, talk, eat, drink, and have a blast.” They blurt out. 　　It is true that the five steps listed above encompass11 much of the goings-on12 at American social gatherings. Of course, during parties for special occasions such as: Birthdays, holidays, weddings, baby showers, anniversaries, graduations, etc., there are additional ceremonies such as: cake cutting, gift opening, dancing, toasting, game playing, etc. But regardless, the fundamentals of a typical American soiree 13 are good company, good food and drinks, and good times. 　　Sounds simply, doesn’ t it? But if you were to look deeper and think further, you’ ll realize that there’ s far more to these steps than meets the eyes. 　　1. FASHIONABLY LATE 　　It is a major faux pas14 (social embarrassment) to arrive at a party early or even on time. Therefore, with the exception of the hosts, you never want to be the first person present at a social function. Why? Because people fear that others may think that they have no life or nothing better to do than waiting for a party to start. Many Americans try to project15 an image of business which, whether true or not, has a positive correlation16 with success.So by arriving late, you are saying: “ I lead a full life and it's exciting and productive.” 　　Therefore, an 8 o’ clock party customarily doesn’ t really start until maybe 9 o’ clock as everyone wants to be thought of as a busy and important person with lots to do. In other words, a party is one of those rare occasions where your punctuality17 can actually hurt you. Weird18, isn’ t it. Anyhow, remember, be fashionably late. 　　2. SMALL TALK 　　One way of gauging19 the success of a party is by the noise meter. The louder the party is, the more happening it is, and the more fun people are having. Then you stop to wonder, if it’ s so noisy, how can people really hear each other and have great, engaging conversations? The truth is: They don’ t. They engage in small talk, which is another word for casual, trivial conversations. They chew the fat20, shoot the breeze21 and swap anecdotes about random subjects: work, family, news, weather, hobbies, etc. Because the surrounding noise and activities often sidetrack people, it’ s difficult to get personal or discuss any one topic at length or in depth. The point is to have fun, not to get serious. 　　However, keep in mind that since people tend to be in good moods and spirit when attending a social function, parties often provide an excellent environment for making new friends and establishing valuable business contacts. In fact, in many professions, important business transactions22 are initiated at a social event. People meet, have a nice chat, exchange information, and make a good impression.Sometimes that’ s all it takes to begin a long-lasting friendship or business association.So never underestimate the power of small talk. 　　3. FOOD FOR FUN 　　With the exception of dinner parties where a full meal is served, most parties offer finger foods--food that you pick up with your fingers. (So don’ t worry, it is not impolite to eat with your hands at parties.) Some of the classic party foods are cheese and crackers23, crudité s24 (vegetables and dip), fruits, shrimp toasts, Swiss meatballs, mini
2 士梅专栏 联欢会随想(doc)